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Iam tired boss,but mostly iam tired of people being ugly to each other


“Iam tired boss,but mostly iam tired of people being ugly to each other.”One of the most noted paraphrases that we can still remember,was quoted from a man an actor on the Green Mile movie.

What Causes a Person to Be Intentionally Cruel?

The first time I saw a T-shirt that said “mean people suck,” I thought, Now, there is a heartfelt sentiment, succinctly expressed. I only wished I’d been the author. I mention this because recently I’ve encountered several mean people, and I’ve had to remind myself that the concept of authorship is key to surviving these experiences.

What causes a person to be intentionally cruel? Is it carelessness? A genetic predisposition involving a lack of empathy? A lack of proper nurturing? A culturally indoctrinated tendency?

Desperation is the common thread.

Any feeling felt strongly enough is a feeling that imposes the desire to share it. When you are in love, you floats. You wish to shout from the mountain tops about your potently bursting feelings. The same thing happens when you are in pain, and perhaps, a potently bursting negative feeling deserves no less tribute. In any case, human beings have a social proclivity towards sharing feelings.

In the case of hatred, anger or violence, the emotion is often so horrible and powerful that the person feeling it wants to get rid of it, and since the emotion is so volatile, the expression of it tends to be as well. In addition, even if on some deep moral level a person knows that hurting others is wrong, the compulsion to eradicate the bad feelings, on a psychological level, is prevalent. The need to not feel intensely negative all the time overrides the need to walk a moral or ethical path.

I don’t know about you, but my favorite ways of reacting to mean people are (1) getting mean right back or (2) lying down quietly to display the word welcome! written where my spine used to be. Annoyingly, my job constantly reminds me that there’s a more responsible and effective way to live. That’s how it is for us authors. I say “us” because you’re an author, too. Not all of us write for publication, but every living person has the power of authorship when it comes to composing our lives. Meanness emerges when we believe that we have no such power, that we’re passive receptors of life’s vagaries. Inner peace follows when we begin responding to cruelty—our own and other people’s—with the authority we’ve possessed all along.

Why are people mean? Here’s the short answer: They’re hurt. Here’s the long answer: They’re really hurt. At some point, somebody—their parents, their lovers, Lady Luck—did them dirty. They were crushed. And they’re still afraid the pain will never stop, or that it will happen again.

There. I’ve just described every single person living on planet Earth.

The fact is that we’ve all been hurt, and we’re all wounded, but not all of us are mean. Why not? Because some people realize that their history of suffering can be a hero’s saga rather than a victim’s whine, depending on how they “write” it. The moment we begin tolerating meanness, in ourselves or others, we are using our authorial power in the service of wrongdoing. We have both the capacity and the obligation to do better.

“You know,” I once said to my 7-year-old daughter, “when I was your age, I wanted to go to Sherwood Forest and meet Robin Hood.” She looked at me with alarm, then cautiously asked, “Mom, do you know what fiction means?” In retrospect, I have to admit the true answer to this question was no. Sure, I realized that Robin Hood was a fictional character. But I wasn’t yet aware how much of my worldview was fiction, how powerfully I was shaping the characters and plot of my own life story.

We perceive events as story lines. We continually (though often unconsciously) tell ourselves tales about life, and since no story can include every tiny event, we edit and spin the facts into the stories we prefer. Many of our stories are pure fabrication, and all of them are biased, dominated by our flair for the dramatic, our theories about life, and our fears. A typical mean person’s story line goes like this: “I am a victim; people want to hurt me; I must hurt them first to be safe.” This is why mean people may turn ugly when you say something like “Please pass the salt” or “Hey, it’s raining.” They immediately rewrite whatever they hear to support their story line (“She’s saying I’m a bad cook” or “He’s bringing up the weather to avoid talking about us”). The story, not other people’s behavior, both motivates and excuses their hostility.

If we react to this type of meanness with cruelty of our own, we climb onto the wheel of suffering that drives all conflict, from lovers’ spats to wars: You’re mean to me so I’m mean to you so you’re meaner to me so I’m meaner to you….

We’ll stay on this sickening merry-go-round until we decide to get off—and please note that I did not say “when others stop being mean to us.” We can ride the wheel of suffering when no one else is even present (telling ourselves the same old sad story again and again), and we can leave it even in the midst of violent persecution. The way out is not found in changing our circumstances but in the power of authorship.

Some of the information is based on Martha Beck,all rights reserved.

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MY NAME IS EVAN JENSEN A PARANORMAL EXPERT IF THERE IS SUCH A THING. I HAVE ALWAYS HAD SERIOUS INTEREST DEEP INSIDE THE PARANORMAL WORLD, NO I AM NOT TALKING REALITY GHOST SHOWS, BUT HAVE STUDIED AND WORKED TO GET A TRUE UNDERSTANDING OF DEMONIC TYPE PHEMOMENA AS IT DOES EXIST.

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9 thoughts on “Iam tired boss,but mostly iam tired of people being ugly to each other

  1. perhaps your not willing to hear the truth either judi i do believe people have helped you including Darlene you moved saying she was rotten as well,then moved to jans area there,then now there rotten and your moved back to Darlene i would be careful and be silent as to slamming or bothering anyone i have been respectful here and quiet. as i don’t harbor bad feelings it is not within me. but you should take a look at your self.and then try to change things for your betterment. with that said iam sending my best wishes to you over there be well.again what did it for me was when you told me carol had interrupted talk shoe and so forth when t didn’t happen and i went live several times already.

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    Posted by BEYOND THE EDGE OF REALITY | July 1, 2016, 8:08 pm
  2. speaking of blogs i do believe you have written many about people.I do also believe you flip flop like a spurge to people and it is why i have stopped it we no longer get plagued with drama infact were nearly now drama free. try it and stop trying to start baloney Joe drama it don’t wotk with us any further being at peoples throats is ridiculous. move forward move on and try to be in a positive frame of mind now wishing you well.

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    Posted by BEYOND THE EDGE OF REALITY | July 1, 2016, 8:11 pm
  3. the things written about Malone were true, you know that. and the things written about Scott are also true as you relayed most of that for the articles so if there is any credits to be changed let us know please/

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    Posted by BEYOND THE EDGE OF REALITY | July 1, 2016, 8:12 pm
  4. I might think you had something important to say here, except, the ENTIRE article is plagiarized with no credit to the original writer who is Martha Beck in 2011. As for what Judi said, who really gives a damn? Nobody cares about your drama tirades and whining. Get a life.

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    Posted by hauntedishpeming | July 1, 2016, 11:48 pm
  5. I really liked this article and have to agree with it all the way!

    Like

    Posted by Womanspirit | July 2, 2016, 2:01 am
  6. Reblogged this on Kerberos616.

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    Posted by kerberos616 | July 2, 2016, 9:38 am

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